“Lean on me, when you’re not strong and I’ll be your friend,
I’ll help you carry on, for it won’t be long ‘til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on.”

These decades-old lyrics from crooner Bill Withers’ “Lean on Me” came to mind recently as I watched two old guys during a ceremony at church.

We often talk about honoring elders and paying respect to those who have been role models of wisdom and good works. But these guys, both well into their 80s, were taking care of one another as friends and spiritual leaders.

I’ll set up the scenario for you. The two old men (one short in stature with white, wooly hair; the other taller, frail and walking wobbly) marched in a procession celebrating new deacons. As the double-file lines of about 20 men passed my row in the sanctuary, the shorter fellow linked his arm tight to the weaker brother’s elbow, holding him steady. The subtle show of strength and friendship was a sight to behold.

Perhaps no one else noticed, but for me it was an example I’ll never forget. You see, both of these guys have their personal issues, physical and family. You’d find it hard to believe that either one was up to participating in a long, taxing ceremony. Yet both stepped slowly and steadily, eager to offer support for the newcomers about to be ordained.

I was reminded of these words from Romans 13:9, “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. “(KJV)

I had to think about the last time I literally offered my shoulder (or arm) for someone to lean on. Often, I’m the one seeking a shoulder to help bear my burdens. I realized that as we face this intersection of change in our communities and in our country, I’ll need to reassess how I will help carry out the hope and the vision that so easily falls eloquent from our lips. Bracing for change is sometimes painful and shoring up the load can be a lot to handle.

Pay attention the next time you have an opportunity to help someone carry their load. A steady arm or a simple smile can be a welcome lift. Observing my two elder friends taught me a new meaning for “Lean on Me.”  It’s a lesson I don’t want YOU to forget.